Perfection is Fear

So, I was beginning to start my new adventure and then a vacation came up. I tried so hard for it not to change my motivation, but now I am back, pieces are moving differently personally, and these last two days have been not been my best work. Is it motivation or is fear arising? Fear is coming up. If you have read previous posts, I struggle with perfection. We delay going forward because we want everything to work perfectly. Well, it doesn’t. You have to mess up and fail in order to move forward. It’s how you learn and create the mindset that you are not failing, you are simply tripping, but it’s on you on how you want to get up. I know that I am going to get a lot of NOs for this new business because it is new. It’s a new way to look at healthcare and the majority of people have no idea on what it is. I will probably slip up many times in how to describe it. However, I will not just give up. I will trip many times, but I will not fall and stay down.

I also do network marketing very minimally, but I went into this side business for the mindset. So, today, I was not checking off boxes by any means. This blog might be it today and that is ok. I got on the call with my marketing firm because I needed motivation today, I needed to grow my mindset. There were about 150 people on the call and the guy who runs these calls is intense. He wants you to succeed in life, whichever way that may be. Whether it is with your personal life, the business side of things, or other adventures. We get on these calls to keep us going. He asks the questions, “Are you ready?” In my head, I am replying, “yes.” (kinda ready today, not really) Well, then he is looking at the screen and says, “Brooke, are you ready?” Of course I give the thumbs up. Taking action. He only called out a few people and my name was one of them today. Why did he call me out? He probably knew I needed it or some inner being told him to call on me today to get my ass in gear. Did it work? Well, I am writing about it and writing creates creativity so yes, it worked.

Perfection is fear. When fear arises, your goals start diminishing. What do I fear? That’s easy, failure. Everybody does. But, we need to be looking at failure in a new light. We need to alter the thinking and embrace the fear. Once we embrace it and really dive into what is really going on, it’s not fear we are fearing, it’s growth. Growing out of old habits, growing out of relationships, growing out of our comfort zone. Replace fear with growth. Time is just an illusion. Where ever you are, you brought yourself to this place. It may be a bad place, it may be a good place. If it is a bad place; find alternatives, find the miracle, find the what you can do in the situation. Find the inner strength that keeps you grounded. Find yourself. Nobody is perfect so don’t get down on yourself if you don’t succeed the first time or the twentieth time. Keep failing in order to succeed.

At 38, I have been through many relationships and I could look at them as failures, however this last one, I am looking at it as growth. When a person comes into your life, they come into your life to teach you something and every ex, friendship, or peer relationship I have had, I grow from it. I used to look at it as a failure, not anymore. They are here to teach me how to be a better me for the next soul that comes along and I thank them for that. Fear equals growth. Don’t give up, give in.