Actions Speak Louder than Words (Fly Under the Radar)

Hey Everyone. I was actually having writer’s block the last few days. This is what I was scared off, and knew it would happen. I perceived it, and carried it through, which in turn left me feeling hopeless and I was going to fail. However, an interaction I had with a nurse the other day gave me insight to this article. Thank goodness!!! Thank you fellow RN who is sometimes scary to approach, however, has the same intentions as me. Why? Because her actions speak louder than her words. She is a great nurse and she scared me from the get go when I first met her. She is very smart, however quiet, and she flies under the radar. I haven’t been in the room with her patients much, but she sure does advocate for them and I have full respect for her.

I want to say 5 or 6 months ago, maybe longer, I sat down with this nurse and I wanted to get to know her a little better. Was I scared? You betcha. So, we started with small talk and after a little while she said, “Brooke, I thought you were always a ‘B’ (female dog) because you didn’t talk to anyone.” I felt the same way towards her! She mentioned that she always appreciated my hard work and determination, which in turn, I reciprocated with that statement towards her. I have learned in this lifetime, people who have a great work ethic and want to make a difference in people’s lives are people, I am attracted too. I also have learned this type of person does not gloat, they don’t want attention, they want to work hard because at the end of the day, we prosper from it. We do not have to flaunt it. Why are people so scared of us. Shouldn’t our actions speak our silent words? Yes! However, I have learned you have to let the cement wall chip away a little so you can communicate you are safe and trustworthy, and most important, wanting to help in anyway you can.

It really disappoints me when health care providers are sitting at the desk, talking away, communicating with their best friends, instead of working. Didn’t know you could get paid to chit chat? What a concept! I would seriously feel so bad getting paid and just talking to my friends. Instead, if a call light is ringing, I have watched many look at it while they are talking and say, “Not my patient.” Yes, I am guilty as well! Is it because I have been talking to my friends all day? No. My reasoning is I have so much to chart, and I keep checking in on my patients so I know they are ok. Do I get angrier throughout the day? Yes. So, what do you do about this? WELL, we can politely ask if the paid chit chatters have time to answer their light OR we just take action and help out as much as we can. Actions speak. If you are busy with a task, you can reach out and ask for help. It’s okay! However, in a polite manner, of course. It will not get you far being negative, because then people are scared of you even more, if they already have that preconceived notion of you from the very beginning when they met you. Probably a chit chatter told them. Maybe? Maybe not? They have time….

How did they learn that you set high expectations and think you are mean? Honestly, people talk, but I have trained myself into thinking, maybe they want to do just as good as you, but they think they can’t get there. Try training your brain this way and your actions and simple positive words will make a difference. Super hard to do with the frequent friend flyers, but keep trying because guess what, you are flying under the radar and your actions are for you, not anybody else. Channel your energy to be enough and pass that energy to others, hoping others can channel in, and your channeling can truly make a difference. Lots of channels in the last sentence. TV has a lot of channels, depends on what package you desire. I feel less channels are better.

Set simple expectations for people. Not low, simple. Low is a harsh word. Hard working people set their expectations very high and you might think everyone should have the same expectation. Nobody has the same expectations as you! I have worked hard to help them see differently. Their choice, learned behavior. . Don’t keep defending yourself, just ride the wave. People say I am very black and white. Nope. Used to be, but more gray undertones now. Or bright blue. I get to choose the color. My choice.

Back to high expectations, keep those near and dear to your heart under the radar. People who are in their job to “just get by,” it will affect them in the end. You will maintain to be hopeful for them, however, it is their choice. Might take them a short amount of time or might take a long time. However, once they experience it and open their potential, they are going to feel so good and their confidence will build. Their potential or confidence was never taught in the past. Maybe, it was their upbringing, their genetic code, you don’t know.

Live in the moment. You can create the future on how your actions are perceived by others, and you can control what event is next. You cannot change the past unless you live in a time capsule. I haven’t see anyone in a time capsule. Have you? It would be cool if you have, and you have changed the past. I would love to hear about it!

If people don’t like you for who you are, it is ok. However, chip that wall down a little. Not the whole thing!! You don’t have to be best friends with everyone! That is hundreds of people, like fakebook. (It still won’t let me type the “real” title, guys.) I am trying, just kidding, I am not, don’t care. But maybe, if a chip falls down, it will let others see you a little more, they may want to imitate your actions. Wow! That would be awesome!!

By the way, I posted my birthday fundraiser on fakebook in hope people would donate to a mental health cause organization. Do you think fakebook hid it for no one to see because it is a touchy subject? Or you surpassed it because it would make you look like you need mental help yourself. That looks bad, doesn’t it? Actually it makes you look like you care! Two people near and dear to my heart donated. Thank you! Also, the nurse, I was talking about earlier, she always makes my day easier for me because I know I can count on her. Thank you so much! By the way, she is very honest and genuine, and I found out by letting a chip down on my cement wall.

Little fun fact for you. Did you know a coronavirus molecule is 0.3 microns? Regular masks we have been wearing only protect against 3.0 microns. Do your own research instead of listening to mainstream media. Might wake you up even more.