Skepticism…..Friend or Foe?

Skepticism is defined as: a doubting or questioning attitude. Who has experienced this attitude? My hand is raised times a thousand million. Why are we skeptical? Have we been burned so many times by people that when someone or something new arrives, we automatically have doubts? I have my fab 3 individuals who helped me into this transformation, however, one of the three was skeptical. She was skeptical about reading my blog because she didn’t know how long this positive phase was going to last. Fair thoughts. I totally told her, “I can see why you think that for sure.” I was a roller coaster ride before now. I was mostly negative, I admit it. Misery sure loves company. Not saying that she didn’t like the old Brooke, she tolerated me because she saw something in me which was destined to come out sooner or later! I appreciate her to the moon and back! During this transformation, I have found a greater sense of self being, however lonely at times, it’s given me a sense of wholeness and peacefulness. I no longer need drama to fill my time. I find it pointless, endless, and it gets you absolutely no where in life.

How do you turn skeptics into believers? I was listening in on a live video conference that a new friend directed me, and this was mentioned, which was weird because I already had my title written before I tuned into this motivational speaker. #Realist. So, back to the question. Believers became believers because I kept being positive, full of high positive vibration, working toward meaningful goals, deep listening, and by being a better me! We attract who we are. There is no hiding from it. If you are attracting negative energy suckers, “my life sucks” people, guess what? You are one of them. I know, very hard to read, but read it again.

There was one point in time at work, one of my peers voiced, “Everybody is worried about you.” I replied, ” Whaaaaaaat.” I didn’t understand it, I was more positive and I didn’t feed into the negative energy. I also replied, ” Everybody?” That is a lot of concerned people. 64 to be exact number of people who work on my floor. Guess how many people reached out during my transformational phase? Two. I told her this and then she started back tracking. Uh oh. She said, “Well, not everybody, but quite a few.” I can call bluffs now, FYI. I don’t suffer from drama anymore. So I asked this question to the former peer/friend, “Are you just upset we don’t hang out anymore?” Complete silence. Then……I got a, “yes.” “I just don’t know what happened to us. We used to be close.” I looked at her and told her I was in a different place, a different mindset. I replied, “I can’t value a friendship which is making my life harder by watching you set up negative vibes in this environment.” I also gave her examples of her tendencies. She was thankful for the honesty. I did reach out after the conversation on two separate occasions. I received excuses and she was too busy. Guess she didn’t like my honesty, and I got to hang out by myself more, which was way more useful to me at the time.

In my high school sport achievements, I received a lot of accolades. Made me very uncomfortable. Hated being in the spot light at times. There was one individual though, who stood out. He would write me notes of encouragement, congratulations, good for yous. You know what stuck out the most? He would draw a stick figure of me with the biggest heart drawn right in the middle. Bigger than the body. At the time, I didn’t understand what it meant. Not my heart, my friend, it’s my endless hours of practice. Nope….he had it right, it was my heart, my mind, my purpose. I just pulled out the graduation card he gave me and it’s a quote from Shakespeare, and he drew another stick figure 🙂 “We know what we are, but not what we may be……” What have you become? What are you becoming? I have transformed into an uncomfortable being for some, comfortable for others. No one likes change, right? Well, guess what? It is your choice to be uncomfortable, not mine. I will keep on this journey for many more years to come with or without you. Are you still skeptical?

P.S. Did you know the average being has 80,000 thoughts a day? How many of yours are positive?