What are you Contributing?

Lots of thoughts regarding social media this morning, so I need to write it out to make myself feel at peace again. I have backed way off of social media due to discrimination, perfection, and competition. Read those last three words…… all negative. Which is what social media is, if you are posting how perfect your life is. I wonder how long it took you to take the perfect picture? Do you have a filter on it? How many takes did it take you to get the perfect one? I feel we should post the number of times you actually tried to take the perfect picture, how many moods it took you to get there, and what was the situation before the perfect snap. Post all of this beneath your picture and maybe you will make people feel good about themselves because they know you struggle too.

You are contributing to people’s anxiety and depression every time you post “the perfect pic.” Hey, I am guilty too. Why I only post scenery and positive affirmations these days. Why? Because people feel calm with nature and positive words. You can’t disagree with this. In the past few months, I rather invite a friend over, actually have a dialogue and share pictures with someone in real time. Real time!? My definition of real time is being off social media and writing or researching nurse coaching, or being outside, or lately…lots of work because as you know from media, nursing is tough right now. However, I was put here to help humanity in anyway I can and right now this means extra hours at the hospital. Being with what is at this moment. This is where I need to be these days. It is my calling. What does the future hold for me? That is always a work in progress. But I do it under the radar and not post it on social media, because it’s called self love. I don’t need to share my accomplishments with the 200 friends on fakebook. I know, my fakebook friend count is low 🙂 These accomplishments are for me to celebrate with my circle of friends. Even though my circle keeps getting smaller and smaller. It actually is getting stronger and stronger. If people want to reach out to you to spend real time, they will. It will be the right people. The ones who want to know about your accomplishments, your positive being, your true and honest self.

What if we were mandated on social media on what we can post? The mandate being by putting a honest post on how you took your perfect picture. We need this mandate to help people crawl out of their anxiety and depression which we/you are contributing too. On the other hand, stop scrolling and making yourself feel below others. STOP IT! You have the power and the energy to minimize your fake time and make it into real time. Bring yourself back to real life, experience it off of your phone, computer, and TV. Make your own experiences, this should be enough to get you through your day. Create the healthier you. You have it in you, just reflect on times you felt the best and repeat. Keep repeating until it becomes habit. Let me know how you feel. I am curious. Happy Tuesday!