Dancing with Your Shadows

I know this is a song lyric, but it holds true every day. Shadows creep up on you in so many ways. Why is there so much evil in the world today? Because we keep letting these shadows appear. We clearly keep ourselves entertained with negativity, and not positivity. Why can’t we live in a 100 percent blissful state? Young kids and animals can. The reason they are able too, is they are conditioned to love, right from the get go. Just like you and me. We experience shadows throughout our lifetime and we hang on to them. We keep dancing with them over and over like a broken record. How do we stop? We have to be aware of our words, our touch, our thoughts, our feelings, and most of all, our reactions.

If negativity affects your life, you are letting it in, you might be the cause. I know I can be the cause of it at times. It’s what we were taught to do. We need to unlearn. We need to unravel and the only way you can unravel is get mental help, get mental clarity. I put in my facebook posts that I am available to help, and no one takes the bait. If you invest in yourself, you are going to come out way richer than someone who thinks they can do it on their own. We are not meant to figure life out on our own. We are a collective. When people first start therapy, coaching, or counseling, it is absolute hell. We are confused, it brings up emotions which we have been hiding for so long. We bury those emotions, because we don’t want to feel them. The only way to get rid of them is to dance with those feelings until they dissipate. They will, I promise. Your mental health determines your physical health. This is known fact. If you are not crushing it mentally, your physical being is the one which suffers. Did you know most of your serotonin is made up in your gut? What are you feeding it?

I bought these mindful cards and the one I picked out today was, “If you could go back in time and say one thing to your former self, what moment would you go back to and what would you say?” ONE?! I have so many! So, I would choose out of everything, that each person I have met, I was either supposed to learn from them or teach them something. I wouldn’t have worried about all the drama bull crap which occurs with people. I wouldn’t have spent so much time on it and moved on. I would have seen who was in my corner and who was just in it for themselves. These are the people who don’t know how to apologize. And it isn’t really necessary I needed an apology, just a recognition they could have done better. Been more aware, more awake. I forgive them, however I am done with making the move to soothe the friendship over. No more regrets. The people you meet in the future are the ones who mirror you, they are your reflection. Who will you dance and reflect with in the coming weeks or years. It might determine your-self worth, in turn, you breaking away from your shadows.